my thoughts exactly!

typical get your head back into u r pants

exactlly what i expected from you alph21

exactly what my husband would of said

bout time a girl does something nice for a guy

or maybe he's just stupid and cant tie his shoes...

I'm with you !!
There's no way in hell I would tie the shoes of anyone over the age of 5 (unless, of course, they were crippled, or something).

My fiance has a friend that isn't good looking, doesn't make a lot of money, is mean to his wife & cheats on her. And, she waits on him hand & foot. He actually orders her to get things for him & no matter what she's doing, she jumps into action. I just sit there in shock at the sight of it. I swear, I think my head might explode if I go over there & see that again.
The kicker is, the girl is stunningly beautiful !! I just don't get it.

Maybe I should take a trip to NYC and get her straightened out.

It'll only take a minute or so.

LMFAO !!

It's a dirty job, but somebody's gotta do it.

It's usually people that are stubborn, ugly, and aren't talented that have huge.. umm... things.

That seems like it would be the reason. But, in this case, I don't think so. You see, this guy always wears really tight pants & I've never seen any kind of bulge.

LMFAO.
L3ARN3D!

Poor woman i just hate it when i hear stories like this because i just can't imagine why people stay with peopl like that i surpose theres reasons we don't know about, but i would of been out eof there long ago!!! What a watse of a pretty girl someone needs to shoot that bastard

i just can't imagine why people stay with peopl like that i surpose theres reasons we don't know about


My oppinion is that he's brainwashed her into believing that she's worthless & is lucky to have him because who else would "put up with her".
And, she probably had a low self esteem to begin with.
Maybe her father didn't hug her enough.
But regardless, she needs to realize her worth & leave him.
There comes a point when the abuse someone else puts you through becomes partially, your own fault. People only do to you what you let them do.

thats so true sarah he's obviously mentally abusing her but you'd think that after years she would see him for what he is and besides it can't be good for the kids either as they will think it's ok to treat women the way their father does so it ends in a vicious cirle

Very true !!

I was in an abusive relationship from the age of 18 until almost 22.
He wasn't "Lifetime movie" abusive, but he was quite emotionally abusive & starting on being physically abusive.
It's the kind of thing that happens slowly. They blame everything on you, turn things around on you & make you feel like you're always wrong. They point out every flaw (physically & emotionally) & make that flaw seem like it's more than it really is.
And then, you start believing that you're worthless. It sounds crazy, I know. But, you really do start to believe it.
They slowly but surely get you to the point where you afraid to say anything to them (even if you know you're right) because they'll throw a fit (usually publically, to humiliate you push you down even further). You feel like you can't leave them because they've convinced you that no one else will have you & you'll be alone & miserable for life.
But every once in a while, the abused will come to their senses, grow a set of balls & leave the bum.
That's what happened to me.
I just "woke up" one day. I realized that I'm better than that & deserved better than this pathetic life of abuse that was staring me in the face.
I just up & left one day (& moved half way across the country for 9 months). It wasn't even hard. I just did it. I felt so free. It was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. It was great !! I hadn't felt so good about myself in my entire life up until that point.
Then, I met a REALLY hot guy. He helped me to stay gone (because I realized out what I could have as opposed to what I did have). He didn't know that he helped, but he really did.
God, he was so fine !!!

But I digress ...

Anyway, ever since the day I left him, I've been different. There are certain things that I just won't put up with (especially from a man) & I'm not afraid to defend myself. I feel good about who I am now. And, I'm happy.

I've just got so much for you Sarah you are such a strong woman, have you ever thought in helping ladies in that situaction because you'd be good at it

Well, thank you ! You're too kind !

I do, in a way. I don't work at a center or anything. But, when my clients or friends confide in me about that kind of thing. I talk to them & give them my support. I tell them what happened to me & hopefully, it shows them that there is life after abuse.
They all tell me that they can't imagine me being the kind of person that would have ever been abused. I tell them, 'it's because I'm not that person anymore'.

I can't just stand by & allow that kind of thing to happen to a woman. The only problem is, you can't bring it up to them because they'll get all defensive & then they'll never open up to you. And, they may stop talking to you all together (I've lost 2 friends that way). Then, how can you help them ?!
They also have to be willing to help themselves. I can't force them to leave. They have to do it on their own. If they don't, it won't stick.

God your good *bows im not worthy* pleased to hear that your using your experience to help others, it's a shame that some people just can't see whats happening to them!!!

It's not just men that do the abusing either. I was abused by a woman once! ...God it was good!

LMAO you would'nt be saying that if you were one of thoses battered husbands!!!!!!

Not sure about battered husbands... but I do like battered fish! See... not all batterers are bad.

LMAO very true on the subject of batter did you know that the scottish batter everything including pizza and mars bars?

Battered mars bars are great! As is battered ice cream.

That is gross i love battered fish but anything else is just wrong especially sweet things!!!

I was of the same opinion. But really, you should try it. It's nowhere close to being as bad as it sounds.

Usually we associate batter with savoury things, if you clear your head of fish and chips and think of it as a dessert, you'll really enjoy it.

I have to disagree i mean surely the chocolate will melt????

Yeah, I have to admit, I don't know how they get around that one. I think the ice cream is so cold that it's only dunked in the deep-fryer very quickly, so the outside cools quickly rather than the inside melting quickly. It comes out a little gooey though. Heart attack waiting to happen.

That is so gross even more gross than my cousin who ate apple with batter on she had it in a chinese resturant, she says it was very nice but again i just think euwwww

Given that it was in a Chinese restaurant... I think she would've been happy with a battered apple.

LMAO your right you never actually no what you eating in a chinese

I'm with you on that one! got to have a problem no women would be that stupid surely. I have to put my husbands socks and shoes on at the moment buts hes just had an Hernia op and cant bend down otherwise i'd tell him to kiss my arse!!!

I have to put my husbands socks and shoes on at the moment buts hes just had an Hernia op and cant bend down


Awe, that's sweet !!!

thats but i'd expect the same if it was me thats what a partner ship is for!!!

Very true, if you can't rely on your nearest and dearest when you need them then you aren't very well off. I would do it for mine if he needed me to, but not if he was just being a lazy male chauvanistic pig!

exactlly spammo you hit the nail on the head

Absolutely !!

I sense hostility. Can i offer u a drink sir.?

Sure, scotch and water NO ice...

i'll take a margareta if your offerin'

mine's a becardi and coke thanks *winks*

LOL He's probably farting.